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You’re here because you have a goal you’d like to achieve… but something keeps stopping you. When you try to take steps towards your goal unhelpful thoughts and feelings show up. And they stop you from taking the action needed to build the life you want.
You wish you could get rid of those unpleasant thoughts and feelings so they didn’t get in your way.
Unfortunately, us humans don’t have ‘off’ switches. Have you ever felt worried and someone said something like, “Don’t worry, it might never happen”?
Did that fix it? Were you able to control your worrying? Maybe you could distract yourself for a while, but what about later? What about when you were left alone with your thoughts, could you get rid of them then?
I’m guessing not.
When you try and force yourself to ‘think positively’ or somehow stop feeling bad, it doesn’t work. Instead you layer on a load of new difficult thoughts and feelings, like:
The thing is, it’s not the thoughts and feelings themselves that are the problem. It’s that you get caught up in them. They hook and reel you in. And so, you find yourself doing unhelpful things. Things like self-sabotaging behaviours, exhausting yourself going round in circles, or avoiding doing the things that could make your life better.
With all that going on in your head, it’s not surprising you find it hard to focus on creating the life you want.
You can’t control what happens to you. You can’t control your thoughts and feelings, no matter how much you’d like to. But you can control how you respond to what shows up. And that’s what I can help you with.
You can learn skills to help you unhook from these thoughts and feelings, so they don’t hold you back from building the life you want. When you create distance between you and your thoughts, you can respond to them in a more productive way. In a way that makes your life better. You will be able to do more of the things that truly matter to you – take action towards your goals, and create a rich and fulfilling life.
Having seen the benefits of ACT in my own life I now use it with people, who may not have a mental illness, but still experience stress, worry, burn out, cravings, self-esteem and problems with motivation and self-sabotaging behaviour (which is probably all of us). It is also helping increase performance and wellbeing in sport, business, the arts, healthcare and emergency services.
The main goal of ACT is to increase mental flexibility (your ability to respond flexibly to life’s challenges) helping you be more resilient, productive and reduce the struggle with your thoughts and feelings. Essentially to ‘get out of your head’ so you can focus on the things that really matter in your life. Learning and practicing ACT tools and techniques allows you to reduce the impact difficult thoughts and feelings have on your behaviour and to increase your ability to choose how to respond in challenging situations.
But we are not just going to work on your thoughts and feelings, the ones that are holding you back. We will also work together to help you set goals and take action, after all that’s why you’re here. We will work on those thoughts and feelings so you are then able to choose how you want to respond to them, so you can change your behaviour and take the action you want. ACT can help you prioritise the stuff that is truly important in your life, help you make decisions, inspire, guide and motivate you to take action and create a more fulfilling life.
I know what you’re thinking, there are other coaches that say,
“if you just think positive, keep in a positive frame of mind, you can have everything you want”.
Well, in the long run, how has that worked for you? To some degree, and in some areas of your life, positive thinking may work. If I need to run up a hill or have the confidence to stand up and do a presentation in front of hundreds of people, then positive thinking does work for me. But, for the deep-down stuff, for the thoughts and feelings that reoccur again and again, I’m afraid it doesn’t even scratch the surface.
That’s the great thing about my coaching, we can use positive thinking techniques where it works for you and use ACT tools when it doesn’t. Afterall, you are probably here because you’ve tried positive thinking and it hasn’t worked. In ACT you will be learning a new skill, another tool to add to your toolbox.
Coaching is currently an unregulated profession, which essentially means anyone can call themselves ‘a coach’. So, how do you know your coach is properly qualified? There are organisations such as The Association of Coaching who will only take members that can show evidence of a particular level of training from a registered coach training school. The requirements to join the Association require schools to follow strict guidelines to ensure the quality of their training, you cannot simply download an online course! I completed my coach training with one of the best coach training providers in the UK, where I achieved a Distinction Grade (the highest grade you can get!).
If you would like to find out more about my training or see certification then please feel free to contact me.
If you want to talk to me before buying this course then please email me to arrange a time for a 15 minute, free, no obligation consultation.
Your first session is 90 minutes long. All sessions after that are 60 minutes long, however I always recommend that you should leave 90 minutes for sessions in case they run over. You will not be charged extra if the session runs over the 60 minutes.
I conduct both daytime and evening sessions. However, if you are limited in your flexibility then please email me first to make sure we can accomodate your availabilty.
As soon as I have recieved your signed coaching agreement then we can book you in for your first session. Please note that this will probably be for the following week.
The Coaching Agreement is required so you know what to expect from sessions ensuring you recieve the maximum benefit from coaching. It also lays out terms and conditons that are essential to protect both you and myself, and is required for insurance purposes. If you want to see a sample Agreement before purchasing this course then please feel free to email me.
This course offer is only available for online video conference or phone sessions.
My name is Jo and I'm the owner of Dovestone Coaching. I have been a coaching for five years and have been a fully qualified coach for three years. I run webinars, workshops and conduct personal coaching sessions.
I work with people who are stuck due to unhelpful thoughts and feelings. Using techniques based on Acceptance and Commitment Coaching and Training (ACT) I help them unhook from these unwanted thoughts. By creating some distance between them and their thoughts they can respond more flexibly, giving freedom from their inner critic. ACT is a well-evidenced psychological framework to help people move forward and reduce the struggle in their life. I don’t just coach clients on ACT – I use these techniques myself every single day.
I am a member of The Association Of Coaching as I believe in maintaining professional standards and continue to develop my skills through training and education.
I must admit, I don’t do extreme sports, go to huge music festivals, or explore exotic places. You won’t see photos of me hanging off rocks, in a Porsche, doing a triathlon or in the executive suite of a posh hotel drinking champagne, because that’s just not me. Instead, I value the everyday things. Things like date nights, a glass of wine with friends, relaxing with a favourite book or playing with the kids.
There’s magic in the everyday, I’ve found. It’s being present in these little, day-to-day things – the people and places that really matter to me – that makes my life rich and fulfilling.